Postpartum Herbal Tea

I can’t remember a time when I did not regularly drink some kinds of tea. Growing up, my Granny would make us steaming cups of black tea, so hot you couldn’t feel your tongue until lunchtime, with a teaspoon of sugar on cold winter mornings for good measure. We would drink sugary sweet sun tea by the gallons in the hot Oklahoma summers. If you were sick? Whewwww… you better hide it from her because she had a mean “Hot Toddy” recipe that would make you forget your name, age, AND address for a good long while. I never considered these teas “healing” but they most certainly were.

As I got older and traveled more, I was introduced to medicinal herbal teas, green teas, oolong, rooibos, CHAI! and the other immense options in the wonderful world of tea. I learned how tea has been a ritual for many, many lifetimes and how teas can heal and nourish you over time with dedication. I am now married at an Englishman and tea continues to be a very significant part of my daily ritual. Don’t get me started on if you should add milk or tea bag first…

As a Licensed Midwife, I often recommend herbs for improving overall vitality and health to my clients. Sometimes the herbs are very specific for desired results and taken for a short period of time. Sometimes, they are offered as an overall tonic or nourishment to a seemingly healthy pregnancy. My very favorite herbal tea recommendation during pregnancy is called NORA Tea. Its recipe originated with the lovely herbalist, Rosemary Gladstar, and she has gone on to share that nourishing blend with the world. I make large batches of organic NORA Tea regularly and give eager clients an 8oz portion to enjoy. NORA tea consists of Nettles, Oatstraw, Red Raspberry Leaf, and Alfalfa. Each of these powerhouse herbs works synergistically within the pregnancy to nourish and improve overall health. There are many variations of the NORA Tea recipe, but the original is my personal favorite.

Postpartum is a time after the birth of a baby where the mother, or birthing parent, is not only healing from the physical and mental aspect of birth, but is also generally doing so while attempting to keep up with the demands of said baby (and perhaps several other children as well). This can be a glorious and thankful time. A time for reflection on the pregnancy and the magic of bringing a new tiny human into this universe. It can also, for some, be overwhelming both physically and emotionally, causing additional anxiety and stress to a time where many new parents already feel unsure of the process of healing the parent and growing the baby with the least amount of harm possible. While an herbal tea can’t fix all the uncertainties of this time, it can offer a nourishing ritual of support cup by cup.

When recommending herbal postpartum teas, I think nourishing, supportive, redemptive, and loving. The plant allies that I have come to know and love for these traits are many. Cross-referencing them with the individuals health history, birthing history, and desired goals to create a custom blend for their overall needs can be tricky, but 100% worth it. Before I share my recipes with you, please note: DISCLAIMER I am not a Doctor.I am not a Clinical Herbalist. I am not YOUR care provider. As such, I recommend speaking with your PCP about the risks and benefits of these recipes prior to consuming them. These recipes are intended to share knowledge and further my own personal goals of teaching others about the plants that benefit us. They are not intended to heal or cure and illnesses or diseases.

Traditional herbal preparations are often measured in “parts” versus cups, ounces, etc. The following recipe uses “parts” for measurement. If you have a kitchen scale for measuring weights, that is ideal, if not, just get as close as you can. Remember, you can alter this to suit your needs and tastes. The herbs used are generally recognized as safe and should not affect the overall desired affect by changing it a little.

Postpartum Herbal Tea: recipe by Deanna Norris

When making a batch of tea, I generally like to make a large quantity of it and store it for ease. You can also make this by the cupful or by the pot if that suits your needs better. Good quality herbs should smell bright and not musty. Throw out herbs you are unsure about. Store away from direct sunlight.

1 part Lemon Balm

1 part Red Raspberry Leaf

2 parts Stinging Nettle

1/2 part Ginger Root

1/4 part Crampbark Root

1/2 part Dandelion Root

alt. 1/2 part Echinacea flower

alt. 1 part Chamomile flower

alt. 1/2 part Dried Rose petal

alt. 1/2 part Dried Lavender flowers

Method: Place the first 6 ingredients in a bowl and mix well. Boil water. Cool 1 minute. Add 1.5 tsp of herbal tea to a cup. Cover with cooled, boiled water. Steep for 7-10 minutes. Add honey or lemon as desired.

Alternative ingredients- you can add any of these options to give the tea a more floral taste versus an herbal taste.

Sun infusions are also a wonderful way to drink nourishing herbal remedies, especially when it is hot outside! In a gallon glass jar, place 1/2 cup of mixed herbal tea and cover with cold water. Sit outside in a sunny space for 6-8 hours, or until you feel called to bring it in. When ready, strain the plant matter off and pour tea into a glass with ice. Add sweetener of choice and enjoy!

Overnight infusions can be done similarly by placing 1/2 cup of mixed herbal tea in a gallon glass jar. Cover with cold water and place either on the counter or in the refrigerator overnight. Strain off the plant matter and pour the tea into a glass with ice. Add sweetener of choice and enjoy!

Note- Crampbark is wonderful for the first 1-2 weeks postpartum, and during the return of your monthly cycle to reduce painful cramps. I don’t recommend taking it for longer than 1-2 weeks. It is easily omitted from the recipe once you don’t need it anymore.

Resources for great dried herbs:

Mountain Rose Herbs

Starwest Botanicals

Joe’s Herb Cabinet

The Spunky Cauldron

Green Acres

Summer Solstice 2022

Known as the longest day of the year, the Summer Solstice is celebrated around the world for it’s abundance, warmth, and promise. It is the beginning of shorter days and longer nights, reminding us to grab life and love hard with each passing sundown. The Summer Solstice is a fire festival often celebrated by the burning of a Wicker Man which represents the Sun God, Lugh. Lugh is believed to be the messenger to the Otherworld. By messages, wishes, and blessings on his “body” before placing him into the bonfire, it’s believed he will carry your wishes and blessings away with the smoke.

This year, Summer Solstice lands on Tuesday, June 21st at 4:13am (in the Northern Hemisphere). As a Licensed Midwife, I do tend to attend most of my clients’ births at night. In fact, after some research, I realized that I have attended many births on the Winter Solstice but fewer on the Summer Solstice. Is this because babies left to arrive on their own timing almost always come at night? I don’t have an answer for that. What is DO know is these Summer Solstice humans are born on the Gemini/Cancer cusp and often hold qualities from both signs. With the moon in Aires, these tiny beings will be a force to be reckoned with.

Celebrating the Summer Solstice with your family can be very simple or very elaborate as entire festivals are held yearly to celebrate this occasion. Sun-rise gatherings, spending time in nature, gathering flowers for the family table, building a summer alter, song and dance circles (especially around a bonfire) are all wonderful ways to celebrate. I started my celebration plans earlier this month when my elder trees were bursting with blooms. I gathered the elderflowers and fermented them just long enough to bottle them and create Elderflower “champagne”which will be ready to enjoy on the Solstice with friends and family as we did last year.

I combined a recipe from Rosemary Fairy with one from the wonderful forager Pascal Baudar, author of “The Wildcrafting Brewer: Creating Unique Drinks and Boozy Concoctions from Nature's Ingredients”. I chose to combine these two recipes after trying them each separately last year. I liked aspects of both and thought combining them would make the perfect Solstice drink. We shall see!

Bottles of Elderflower “champagne” made June 2022.

Because my “Champagne” has a small amount of alcohol once fermenting is completed, much like kombucha, it isn’t a recipe I feel comfortable sharing here. I will, however, leave you with this deliciously refreshing herbal infusion to create for your Solstice celebrations this year. I hope you enjoy it! It is a favorite of mine.

A Sunny Little Tea by Deanna Norris, CPM, LM

8-10 leave fresh Peppermint

8-10 leaves fresh Lemon Balm

8-10 leaves fresh Holy Basil (Tulsi)

1- gallon glass jar

To make, wash and combine herbs in glass jar. Cover with water to the top of the jar and place outside in a sunny spot for 6-12 hours, or whatever feels good to your soul. Remove herbs (or not) and place in the refrigerator to chill. Serve over ice with sliced frozen strawberries if you so wish. You can also infuse these herbs inside, or even in the refrigerator if you don’t have a space to sun them outside. This tea is practically foolproof.

Alternatives- Chamomile, Catmint, Spearmint, Thyme, Elderflowers, Lavender, or Hibiscus (if not pregnant). You can also add fresh ginger for a zing.

For more information about the history of the Summer Solstice, or for additional activities you might enjoy, check out the following:

“Circle Round: Raising Children in the Goddess Tradition”, Starhawk, Diane Baker, Anne Hill

“The Women’s Wheel of Life”, Elizabeth Davis and Carol Leonard

“The Wheel of the Year, Living a Magical Life”, Pauline Campanelli

National Geographic

The Almanac

Summer Solstice Worksheets for Kids

Share your Summer Solstice celebratory activities in the comments below!

Holistic Pregnancy

Holistic- relating to or concerned with wholes or with complete systems rather than with the analysis of, treatment of, or dissection into parts.

When planning a holistic birth, it's important to keep in mind all the ways in which intentions connect to action. The people you bring into your space, the food you eat, the sleep you miss, and the thoughts you think, all work together to create an environment that you carry with you through pregnancy, and after birth and postpartum. 

Connection to the earth and people who are near you-

Who do you see daily? How are you connected? How are these interactions nourishing your soul and your birth space? Are you attracting positive or negative? How can you manifest the connections you need to feel safe and grounded?

Consciously making space for baby both in your home and in your heart-

Have you welcomed baby into your family?  Have you made space for them, whether literally or figuratively? Perhaps a special alter in your home could be dedicated to your sweet one, or a special blanket or piece of art which says "you are wanted, you are welcome". 

Releasing both fear and control- 

These are big and important. Releasing fear is empowering. It allows you to free your mind and open yourself to an experience you will never again have. You might birth again, but you will not have *this* birth again. Open to it. Invite it in. Sit with it and collaborate. Releasing fear releases control. You cannot control your birth or the outcome. You can plan and educate and manifest, but you cannot control, and you really don't want to. Controlling your birth may very well restrict the universe from the intentions already laid for you and your baby. This experience has the potential to be so much more than you could ever dream if you open yourself to the possibilities. 

Self-care: before, during, and after birth- 

This looks different for every person, but some simple yet important ways to care for yourself are get adequate rest, nourish your body, nourish your soul, and drink great water. Maybe you nourish your soul with yoga + meditation every morning before the sun comes up. Perhaps it's a hike at sunset followed by a slow evening meal. For others, family time and routine are self-care. This can be anything, as long as it feeds you well.

laughing, smiling, resting, meditating, balancing

What are your intentions for a holistic birth? Add them below! 

Student midwife recap, 2016

Hello all! I wanted to pop on here and give an update for anyone even slightly paying attention to my midwifery journey. I have just completed my first year at Midwives College of Utah. This college is MEAC accredited and I am pursuing my Bachelor's of Science in Midwifery. After I graduate, I will take the NARM exam to become a CPM (Certified Professional Midwife). Due to previous experience and college credits, I am on course to finish this degree in 3 years. I have 2 years left, starting in January. The school runs almost continuously from January to December, with 2 week breaks between the "trimesters" and slightly longer over the Christmas holiday. It is demanding and rigorous but that is to be expected from such an important field of education. I completed my NRP and CPR training earlier this year, as well as certification for placenta encapsulation and my observe phase for the clinical portion of the program. I am awaiting approval for the assist phase. The "assist" phase simply means I can get credit for some of the things I do in clinic and at births when helping my preceptors. 

As of this week, I am honored to be working with 3 amazing local midwives. They are beyond generous to open their practices up to me and invite me in to learn midwifery from such great practices. I am humbled and appreciative of them. This step has most definitely taken the dream into reality. Watching these women run their personal practices, interact with expecting families, overcome obstacles and always remaining ever supportive and encouraging is inspiring. I thank them from the bottom of my weepy student midwife heart. 

My favorite class to take this year was a tie between Midwife's Assistant and Herbology for Midwives. Anyone that knows me knows I love plant medicine. For this course, I was *requried* to plant a midwife's garden! Can you believe it! My favorite herb to grow by far was chamomile. I am also eagerly awaiting next year to harvest from my Vitex tree. Midwife's Assistant was really fun. I learned some basics and got to walk through case studies. 

Captured by my husband, while I studied late one night. 

My chamomile garden! I made tea, tinctures and glycerites from this amazing crop of herbs. 

My most challenging class this year was Prenatal Care. This was the very first "midwife" specific course I took. I was required to think like a midwife and with that brought the enormity of what I am actually doing with my life. While I love the piles of books that sometimes even contradict each other, I really enjoyed the live conferences I had for this class. When you're in such a diverse group of people, some of whom might have even been practicing as a midwife already, it's really nice to be able to ask people who have more first hand knowledge than myself what they might do in a given situation. 

In August, 2 other local student midwives and I attended a week long school conference in Salt Lake City, Utah, where the school is located. It was so nice to be with a group of student midwives who love to learn! We had great meals, met other amazing women, experienced growth and increased our knowledge. Salt Lake City is a beautiful, albeit hilly, place to visit. Wear your most comfortable walking shoes and take in the view. On our last night there, a group of us took a moonlight hike. It might have been my most favorite thing we did. We sat as a circle of women, at the top of the beautiful Red Butte Canyon, honoring the earth, the importance of our work, and each other. A truly spiritual experience. On the way down, the full moon showed her stunning self over the top of the butte. 

Holding sweet baby Dash as he sleeps, while his mama holds his sister. 

Our charming Air B&B, located a few blocks away from the retreat center our conference was held at. 

Amy, practicing IV skills on me. We did a lot of hands on learning over the course of the week. 

One of my successful placements! Thanks for the amazing arms, Libby. 

Great food. Great women. Great friends. 

Looking into the city from our hike.

The full moon, lighting the way for us. 

This year was interesting. I learned a lot about myself and my ability to learn. I have always been a fantastic student but this learning while holding down 2 jobs and raising 3 boys with a husband that also has a full time career thing is hard! I realized my limits include needing to leave the house to get anything done. I split my study time between the doula offices at Thrive Mama Collective, Panera Bread and All About Cha (get the Goguma latte...it's fantastic!). I also learned I actually retain more than I thought. This in itself is the highlight of my year because I thought 3 pregnancies made my brain a sieve. 

Study time at Aspen Coffee Shop. 

Looking forward to next year, I am excited to get more core classes under my belt, as well as working more consistently beside my preceptors and more closely with local expecting families. I am very thankful for the guidance of my preceptors and fellow student midwives, as well as their friendship. This is a hard road and we only make it by lifting each other up. This entire journey would not even be slightly possible without the support, love and encouragement of my amazing husband. I am away from my family often and he ensures the children are well taken care of and the household runs smoothly on a daily basis. He is my rock and I appreciate all of the sacrifices he makes to pave the way for me to move forward in this career. I am lucky to have him and thank him from the bottom of my heart for all the ways he stands beside me. 

My super amazing partner in crime. 

GIVEAWAY!

GIVEAWAY TIME!!! You've been waiting patiently for this moment. In celebration of Labor Day and our local Improving Birth rally, I am hosting a giveaway of the items pictured above.

1. Improving Birth "Birth Matters Mandala" V-neck t-shirt in size Large.  

2. Bringing Baby Earthside and Nourishing Baby coloring books by The Art of Birth 

3. "Coffee Is My Love Language" mug, generously donated by Belinda of Wildflower Mercantile.

4. 2 Erin Darcy Design postcards

5. Lip balm + Moisture Cream from Prairie Bloom 

6. "Trust the Process" affirmation painting from The Wildest Dandelion 

7. Hand blended Herbal Bath from me!

TO ENTER: must be a resident of Oklahoma. Winner will be chosen 9/5/16 at noon CST. 

4 ways to enter- 

Tag 5 local friends to follow me on Instagram at Instagram. (1 entry), 

Follow me on Facebook under Facebook (1 entry) 

Attend the rally on Saturday AND upload a selfie on my Facebook page with why you're Improving Birth (3 entires)

and for 5 entries!!!

Book a free consult with me before 9/12/16 for doula or placenta services.

Our local rally info is here: Improvingbirth.org - Oklahoma City, OK

Herbs and Pregnancy

Herbs are a part of every day life for many of us. From the basil in the marinara to infusions, tinctures and teas, herbs have many uses and many forms. I am often asked about the safety of herbs in pregnancy. There are many herbs, that while considered safe in pregnancy, consulting a certified herbalist is still recommended due to the many multi-faceted uses of most herbs. Just today, there was a discussion in a mother's group I am a part of about Red Raspberry Leaf. One person mentioned it was a uterine tonic; another mentioned it was a hormone balancer. It's both! This is the beauty of herbs. They are multi-functional. 

Below are my top 5 herbs for use in pregnancy. Remember to consult your provider about your own health care needs when choosing an herbal regime. 

1. Red Raspberry Leaf-

This herb is such a great herb for women in all aspects of life. From the young girl, just starting her cycles to the women who is going through menopause, RRL has an amazing ability to adapt to our body's needs. 

Raspberry leaves are the most famous of all the herbs used during pregnancy. They have both relaxing and toning, or astringent, actions, with a particular affinity for the uterus. Throughout history, RRL has been used to speed up birth and to stimulate lactation after birth. 

GRAS, no contraindications or side effects Starting in the 2nd trimester, take one cup of infusion daily, increasing to 3 cups daily in the 3rd trimester. While in labor, take a cupful every hour. Continue with this mixture after birth, 1-3 times daily, to tone and strengthen the pelvic tissues. 

2. Chamomile- 

A gentle herb, considered very safe, is great at relieving stress and tension. Great for babies and children. Chamomile is served in hospitals throughout Europe to calm and relax patients. Great for stomach tension, indigestion and inflammation. It is easily cultivated and beautiful in the garden. Commonly used for stress, digestive complaints, nervous disorders, inflammation in the joints, and for wounds. It is an excellent remedy for all manners of women’s disorders. 

There are many uses for chamomile including thrush treatment, fever reducer, relieves tension and spasms in the digestive tract, relieves nausea and sickness in pregnancy, relieves painful periods, mastitis treatment, premenstrual headaches, eases the pain of childbirth, used as a pain reliever, used for asthma and hay fever, used externally for eczema and to heals wounds. 

For medicinal purposes, try C. recuitita. Some people can experience an allergic reaction to chamomile since it is in the compositae family. Anyone who suffers from pollen-bearing plant allergies, should use with caution. Chamomile is exceptionally volatile and should not infuse for more than 30 minutes. 

http://www.botanical.com/botanical/mgmh/c/chammo49.html

3. Nettle- 

Common name is stinging nettle. Nettles usefulness can be traced back to antiquity and its popularity as food and medicine has hardly waned over the years. Nettles were used in ancient Greece and Rome to treat gout, rheumatism, and poisonous snake and insect bites. The tough stalk fibers were used as fabric. Steamed young nettle tops serves with olive oil, lemon juice and a bit of feta make a delicious dish according to Rosemary Gladstar, herbalist. Native American women used nettle as a tonic during pregnancy and as a remedy for treating postpartum hemorrhaging. 

When taken over a long period of time, nettles are a tonic that will benefit the entire body. It’s ideal for anemia. Sprinkling the powder on a wound helps it stop bleeding.  Tea is useful for asthma, chronic and acute urinary complaints, urinary stones, nephritis and cystitis, diarrhea, dysentery, hemorrhoids, chronic arthritic and rheumatic problems. 

When tea is drunk during pregnancy, it helps lower high blood pressure. Drink several cups of infusion during labor to help prevent hemorrhage due to the high Vitamin K content. Nettles help with varicosities, kidney issues, encourages rich, abundant milk postpartum, are excellent for young women starting their cycles and for women in menopause. 

4. Dandelion-

Also known as Lion’s teeth and fairy dock. The whole plant can be used as medicine and is highly nutritious. Roots are best harvested in the early spring and late autumn. Leaves should be picked when young in the spring and early summer. Dandelion is most famous for a gently detoxifying bitter tonic. Dandelion has high estrogen properties and is used for a lot of female issues. 

Dandelion is used for digestives issues, liver disease, jaundice, enhancing the appetite, easing digestion, cleansing the liver, hepatitis, gallbladder infections, gallstones, skin problems and headaches. Dandelion increases insulin secretion, is effective as a diuretic and useful for hypoglycemia. 

To use, make a standard decoction or use 10-30 drops of tincture. ½ cup infusion, every 30 minutes to treat stomach aches.          

5. Echinacea-

I saved my favorite herb for last! Echinacea is my go-to for so many things. This herb is called Purple Coneflower locally. It grows wild across Oklahoma, but is also easily cultivated for personal use. I appreciate it's gentleness in easing all things in the "sick" category. 

Echinacea makes our own immune cells more efficient at attacking bacteria, viruses and abnormal cells. It increases the number and activity of immune system cells, stimulates new tissue growth for wound healing and reduces inflammation and inflammatory skin conditions. It also kills yeast and slows or stops the growth of bacteria.

Echinacea purpurea has no known toxicity and has an excellent safety record, being very well tolerated by most people. However, Echinacea purpurea should not be used in progressive systemic and autoimmune disorders such as tuberculosis, leucosis, connective tissue disorders, collagenosis and related diseases.

For additional information on herbs during pregnancy, see this handy visual aid I made! 

References:

“The Way of Herbs”, M. Tierra, pgs, 184-5

“Complete Women’s Herbal”, M. Tierra

 “Herbal Healing for Women”, R. Gladstar, 

‘Wise Women Herbal for the Childbearing Years”, S. Weed

Have a Healthy and Happy Postpartum

As expecting parents, we often want to have as much information possible to have a great labor and birth. We take classes, read books, talk to other parents, research and, generally, gather as many details and stories possible so that we may have an informed, satisfying birth. One area that is often overlooked in the preparation for baby is the time that comes after baby is here. With 1 in 4 Oklahoma mothers being diagnosed with some form of Post Partum Depression or Anxiety, I think it is essential that all new parents have a plan in place to help ease this new experience. Let’s talk about a few tips that might help you have a great and peaceful post partum transition.

Rest-

In a study conducted in 2005 by Cindy-Lee Dennis, RN, PhD, and Lori Ross, PhD , it is suggested that there is a correlation between baby’s sleep, mother’s sleep and postpartum depression.  “This longitudinal investigation of maternal mood in the first 8 weeks postpartum revealed that infant sleep patterns and maternal fatigue are strongly associated with Edinburgh Postnatal Depression Scale scores indicating probable major depression.” So how do we cope with such a natural instinct as sleep in order to prevent depression occurring? Below are a few suggestions:

·      Co-sleep- This can be as simple as sharing a room with baby or as extensive as bed-sharing. For safe co-sleeping habits, check out these tips via Safe Bed Sharing. 

·      Get help- Fathers in American take an average of 24 hours off for the birth of their child, even though 89% believe paternity leave should be given to all fathers, according to research conducted by Boston College in 2014.  This leaves many new moms not only recovering from birth but trying to take care of a newborn, solo. A postpartum doula, close relative or friend who is willing to stay with you can help you get better rest and take care of things around the house that go by the wayside after birth.

·      Stay home- Simply staying home and resting will give you a new lease on life. Order your groceries online and ask a friend to drop them off for you. Have a neighbor drop the dry cleaning off when they’re out running errands. Put off all non-essential trips away from the house until you have recovered fully and feel good enough to take short trips around town. Ideally, you would be resting in bed with baby skin-to-skin the first 2-4 weeks while others wait on you and pamper you. This is not a common occurance in America, but it should be!

Nourish-

In the study titled “Nutrition and Depression: Implications for Improving Mental Health Among Childbearing-Aged Women”, the authors discuss correlation between nutritional deficiencies and depression and how they would apply to postpartum women. “Childbearing-aged women are particularly vulnerable to the adverse effects of poor nutrition on mood because pregnancy and lactation are major nutritional stressors to the body. The depletion of nutrient reserves throughout pregnancy and a lack of recovery postpartum may increase a woman’s risk of depression.” Below are some suggestions that might help you stay on top of postpartum nutrition.

·      Supplements and foods containing Omega-3 fatty acids, fish oils and anti-oxidants have been shown to help minimize depression.

·      “Deficiencies of folate, vitamin B12, iron, zinc, and selenium tend to be more common among depressed than nondepressed persons.” Folate deficiency reduces the response to anti-depressants. Get adequate amounts of these minerals and nutrients daily.

·      Eat! This is easier said than done, but it is an important reminder. Have prepared meals ready in the freezer before going into labor. Keep fresh fruits, veggies, nuts and seeds handy for snacking in between meals. Stay hydrated, especially when breastfeeding.

Reach out-

In a study of first time mothers, there is evidence to suggest a correlation between social support and lowered postpartum depression, especially in those first 6 weeks postpartum. In order to better arm yourself with support, below are a few ways you can receive support while still maintaining the important mother-baby dyad immediately postpartum.

·      Create a “meal train”- There are several websites that allow you, or others, to set up a calendar that others can volunteer bringing you delicious homemade meals, or even pick up your favorite take out. Meal Train  is one such website.

·      Have a list of household chores conspicuously posted so that guests can volunteer to fold some laundry or wash some dishes once they’ve dropped off a meal. Here is a printable chart you can hang on the fridge! 

·      Ask! Often, we are afraid to burden others who have lives and families of their own with helping us while we recover from birth. Remember, these are people who care about you. If you find yourself struggling, reach out and ask for help. Create a “check-in” list for friends, suggesting they call or text you on a schedule to see how you are coping. This takes the burden of asking away since they have likely volunteered for this task.

In conclusion, if you find yourself struggling, and none of the suggestions listed above are useful to you, please reach out to professional sources. Below are both local and nation wide resources for helping mothers who might be suffering with postpartum depression or anxiety.

Oklahoma-

Postpartum Support International-

http://www.postpartum.net/locations/oklahoma/

Oklahoma Department of Mental Health and Substance Abuse Services- 

http://www.odmhsas.org

Mental Health Association-

Toll Free 1-800-969-NMHA(6642)
TTY 1-800-433-5959 http://www.nmha.org

Oklahoma State Department of Health-

Free resources https://www.ok.gov/health/Child_and_Family_Health/Improving_Infant_Outcomes/Free_Materials_&_Resources/index.html

Oklahoma Postpartum Depression Treatment

Tara Fritsch-

Bristol Two - Office Park

1985 W 33rd

Edmond, OK 73013

Phone: 405.623.8899

Email: tara@newleafok.com

Website: www.tarafritsch.com

Balance Women’s Health-

1105 SW 30th Ct. Moore, OK 73160

(405) 378.2727

balancewomenshealth.com

Aimee Benton, M.A. LPC-

Phone: 405-250-6046

5225 N. Shartel Ave. #201

Oklahoma City, OK 73118

http://thegroveokc.com/aimee-benton/

If you are seeking therapy offering a sliding scale fee based on income, or free counseling services, you might try the following:

http://www.fcsok.org/services/tulsa-adult-family-counseling/

Edmond Family Counseling-

1251 N. Broadway,Edmond, OK 73034

Telephone:405.341.3554

jshaw@edmondfamilycounseling.org

http://edmondfamilycounseling.org

Nationally:

Postpartum Support International-

 http://www.postpartum.net

Postpartum Progress-

http://www.postpartumprogress.com/postpartum-depression-support-organizations-in-the-us-canada-uk-south-africa-australia-new-zealand

If you or someone you know is in crisis or thinking of suicide, get help quickly.

·      Call your doctor.

·      Call 911 for emergency services or go to the nearest emergency room.

·      Call the toll-free 24-hour hotline of the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK (1-800-273-8255); TTY: 1-800-799-4TTY (4889).

A Mother's Circle

If you're very lucky, you will know the intricacies of pregnancy and motherhood in your lifetime. The power and wisdom and strength that mother's grow into as they stretch to fit new dimensions, is stunning. We honored a group of mothers recently, simply because all mothers should be honored at least once in their lives, in such a way that they feel absolutely overcome with appreciation and awe for the journey they are on. 

The setting at Chi Gallery was the perfect backdrop for this eclectic group of women. A mix of old and modern, we felt right at home that day. The mothers were adorned with stunning floral crowns to honor their beauty and femininity upon arriving to the space. Made locally by Everything Beautiful, the women looked every bit the goddess part.

We started the circle with some opening conversation to break the ice. We easily fell into a familiarity that was so fitting for this occasion. Each mother enjoyed a foot soak with mineral salts, lavender and sandalwood. 

The ladies participated in a very cleansing fear releasing ceremony. We shared, held space, honored and offered ourselves during this time. The fears were burned and later released to the winds.

To close the circle, we did a binding ceremony, which represents our connectivity and that we are never alone.

After that, each mother got a small henna design by me and a sitting with Sarah Hester of Sarah Hester Photography. 

Hand panted birth affirmations by Helena Davey of The Wildest Dandelion. Each mother was able to choose one to take home. 

I hope each mother present on this day felt honored and loved and cherished, and carries that with her along her journey through motherhood. 

*Special thanks to Sarah Hester for the use of the stunning images she took that day, as well as securing the beautiful location for the ceremony. 

If you're interested in a Mother Blessing for yourself, or a loved one, please contact me for details. For more information, go here. 

2015 Statistics for Holistic Birthing Services

I would like to share the statistics of the families I was honored to serve this past year. As transparent as these numbers are, they in no way reflect the work that each family put into their births. Amongst these births were vbacs, home births, repeat clients and a lot of firsts, for both the families served and myself.

Some of these births went beautifully, without a hitch in sight. Others, well, they were chock full of challenges, growing opportunities and in a few cases, the odds were stacked too high against them. These numbers don't reveal those stories, journeys or triumphs. They don't reflect those losses. Let us never forget that there is more to a number than you'll ever realize.

5 Things to Include in Your Birth Plan

Almost every mom these days has a birth plan for their upcoming birth. But what exactly is a birth plan? And what should you include? Below, I am going to give you a few tips to help you in deciding what is important to you for your birth and what should be optional based on your birth experience. 

• Who will be attending your birth?

It is helpful for the hospital staff or midwife to know who you want in your personal space when birthing. If your partner, doula and birth photographer are all you can envision being there when your little bundle arrives, make sure the people supporting you understand your wishes. Nurses are great allies when that unwanted visitor shows up to the hospital. I often offer my families my assistance in redirecting well-meaning family members to the waiting room, or even better, sending them on a "very important" errand! 

• How do you want to labor?

Do you envision yourself moving a lot in labor? Do you see yourself laboring in water at some point? Do you think you’ll like to have music, candles, aromatherapy or other ambiance to set the tone of the room? Include these wishes in your preferences. Moms who move during labor instinctually work with their bodies to get baby into great birthing positions. Having the opportunity to move as and when you feel is best helps with an uninhibited birth.

• What routine procedures do you want to opt out of?

Not a fan of needles? Does the idea of continuous fetal monitoring seem counterintuitive to you? Speak to your provider about your options for hep-lock or IV refusal. Find out what your provider feels comfortable with and discuss how you can both get what you’d like. Do you want to eat and drink during labor? Research is actually on your side for that one! Asking your provider what routine procedures are typically expected will give you a good base for what you might want to decline. 

• How do you want to actually give birth?

In many instances, mothers will give birth in uncomfortable positions and with interventions they do not actually want but due to being in labor, can’t have that important discussion to decline something or clarify her wishes. It is best to have this discussion before you ever go into labor so your provider knows what to expect. If you’re birthing in a hospital or birth center, it’s a great idea for you or your doula to discuss with the staff what your expectations during pushing are so they can uphold them. If there are things that are very important to you, such as no counting or delayed cord clamping until pulsation stops or placenta encapsulation, make sure that is highlighted in your plan.

• Newborn baby procedures!

Do you want immediate skin-to-skin with baby? How about erythromycin? Do you want baby to be suctioned upon birth of the head or not at all? Are you leaving baby intact or choosing to circumcise? These are all important baby procedures that need to be discussed beforehand with your care provider. If you are wanting anything out of standard hospital procedures for a birth in a hospital, be sure to alert your nurses as well. Most midwives will encourage you to hold your baby right away and will not disrupt that bonding time until you are ready, unless it becomes medically necessary. 

I include all of this information and so much more during our prenatal visits together. I also offer the option to come with you as you discuss your birth plan with your provider. It is helpful for us all to be on the same page and aware of everyones roles and expectations when working together. 

For more information and tips on creating your ideal birth plan, please contact me! You can find me on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter as well. Just click on the icons at the bottom of the page! 

Common discomforts in pregnancy, and how to soothe them.

Being pregnant can be the most wonderful time of a womans' life. She is growing another tiny human and all is blissful. She is glowing, radiant and gorgeous. Unfortunately, most every mom will be presented with some rather annoying, at best, and uncomfortable, at most, ailments during pregnancy. Here is a short list of common discomforts you might face in your own pregnancy, complete with some ways to soothe them. 

1. Swelling- Minor swelling is common for most mothers. If you find yourself pregnant during the dog days of summer, you might get an extra special helping of swelling. For most women, increasing fluids and electrolytes, resting with your feet up, taking an epsom salt bath and movement will help with any minor swelling. If you notice swelling in your face, call your care provider. This, coupled with high blood pressure and other symptoms, can be a sign of preeclampsia, a very serious condition to affect pregnant women. 

2. Backaches- As your belly grows with life, the strain to your lower back also increases. One of the best ways to remedy this is regular chiropractic care. I have been a long time patient and fan of the Dr.'s Duncan at Revolution Chiropractic, in NW Oklahoma City. Adam Duncan is Webster Certified and can greatly help ease your aching back. Rachel Duncan has a gentle approach and is great at providing lactation support to moms after baby is here.

Another way to help a backache is regular prenatal yoga. Karen Prior of Mamaste Yoga is a wealth of knowledge. Her classes are held around the Oklahoma City Metro area. She has a wonderful "Breathing for Labor" class, as well. If you're lucky enough to get a spot in that class, jump on it! You will learn how to stay strong and healthy throughout your pregnancy to head off any back pain that might normally accompany a new mom. 

3. Heartburn- This one can be tricky. Heartburn can be cause by many different things. Too much or too little stomach acid. Eating too much, to quickly, or lying down too soon after eating, etc. Papaya Enzymes were a favorite remedy of mine during my last 2 pregnancies, as were milkshakes. I found drinking room temperature water with a slice of lemon water to be the most effective, though. Drinking a shot of Apple Cider Vinegar (with the mother, such as Bragg's) can help neutralize stomach acid well. Eating small, non acidic portions helps ease your digestion. 

4. Insomnia- Insomnia is nature's clever way of preparing you for parenthood. Waking every 2 hours to go to the bathroom has it's advantages, as well. For insomnia, start slow and work your way up on the potency factor of these remedies. A warm bath, perhaps with some lavender bath salts, epsom salts or chamomile added to the water is soothing and relaxing. A cup of chamomile to passionflower tea is a wonderful way to unwind in the evenings, perhaps with a nice boring book! Lavender essential oil diffused in your room will give you something meditative to breathe in for relaxing on those nights that the bath and tea aren't cutting it. When all else fails, counting sheep is a good standby! 

In conclusion, I hope you've found some of the suggestions helpful and insightful. Please, share your favorite pregnancy ailment remedy in the comments section! As always, feel free to contact me HERE for more information about my services. 

Peace, 

Deanna

5 Reasons to Hire a Doula

1. Information- Yes, you are perfectly capable of reading books and taking childbirth classes without a doula! What you will not usually have is extensive training on labor and childbirth and how to give families up to date information on the questions they might have. Educated and informed consent and refusal is ideal for all families. Through my multiple doula trainings, I have discovered the best ways to offer local families information on the questions they have, while remaining neutral regarding their decisions. I want you to have a beautiful birth, however that looks for you. 

2. Hands-on support- I love to see a partner supporting a laboring mother. I also know what it’s like to offer a double hip squeeze until my arms are about to fall off, I haven’t used the restroom in at least 12 hours and I am asleep on my feet. That is a lot for your partner to take on while they are supporting you in labor and are excited to meet their child. Having another support person in the room that knows and understands your birth goals can be priceless, to you and dad. Often, partners and I will tag team physical support for a birthing mom. There are times I leave the room to offer some privacy to the birthing couple as well. I love utilizing the rebozo, massage, effleurage, counter pressure and physical support to my clients. You never know when you will need this, but having it can be so beneficial to your labor and birth experience. 

3. Intuition- There are times that I just know a baby needs something specific to be born vaginally. I cannot explain how I know this but I often give these intuitive suggestions to the mother to utilize with much success. After years of watching mothers in the Oklahoma City metro area labor and birth, I have come to be able to know what certain sounds a mother makes mean. Offering position changes, hands on support, visual distractions, guided breath and reassurance help not only mom, but her partner and baby as well. Being in tune with my doula clients is important to me and an advantage to them.

property of Ian Norris Photography

4. Sounding Board- Sometimes, augmenting labor becomes a real possibility. When this happens, it is beneficial for the family to have another, objective person in the room to discuss the possibilities with. Often, there is only one choice presented by the provider. When this happens, I can help you navigate the options and need for the suggestions being given. You are the one to advocate for yourself via open and honest communication with your provider. I am there beside you to remind you of your goals and how these choices might affect those outcomes. Supporting you in the decision you make is a given. I love an empowered family!

5. Snacks- I have a Mary Poppins bag of goodies, which consists mostly of snacks and food items. I happily share with both mom and partner. On any given day, you will find in my bag some sort of raw nuts, nut butters, honey sticks (great for energy!), various protein bars, jerky (dads love this!), hard candies, mints, gum, fruit, and sometimes chocolate. Keeping your energy up while laboring is so important. Birth is a marathon, not a sprint. If you have not prepared to go 24 hours with no sleep, food or physical rest, it can really take a real toll on your body and mental status. That is why I offer snacks to my clients. What about the "no food or drink" rule imposed by most hospitals, you ask? It is a practice that is not backed by evidence and is actually not needed. If your provider gives you grief over food or drink, you are able to sign a right of refusal. *I also carry new lip balms for mom. Mouth breathing dries out your lips. 

I hope this post has been of some help to anyone in the Oklahoma City area who is considering hiring a doula. There are many other reasons why my services is invaluable to your home birth or hospital birth. I would be happy to go over them during a face to face consult. Please go to the contact me section to set that meeting up as space is limited! 

Peace, Deanna

OKC Doula

Being a holistic doula is a wonderful, fulfilling calling. It's a job that demands a lot of me but rewards heavily. I am fortunate enough to serve Central Oklahoma, including OKC, Edmond, Norman, Yukon, Guthrie, Midwest City and the surrounding areas. As a holistic doula I attend all births; including hospital, natural, planned cesarian, VBAC, medicated and home birth. 

Often, I feel it's assumed that doulas only attend natural births. This is not true. How can I help you in a planned cesarian? The same way I would in a natural birth, by providing unlimited emotional, physical and educational support. Each birth is different but support can look the same over a variety of situations. Being able to think on my feet is an asset that has served me well as a doula. As a highly intuitive person, I have found myself able to properly support parents well even if I have no experience with their situation. 

As a certified holistic life coach, I bring aspects to my doula work that others might not. I've been trained to help others reach their goals. Proper communication with my clients is very important to me. Meeting that client where they are helps them know I am there to support them. 

In addition to being a life coach, I am a certified raw food coach. Health and nutrition are the building blocks of our lives. I do my best to offer simple, manageable suggestions to others on improving their diet. Eating healthy during pregnancy and breastfeeding is absolutely vital. I'm always happy to offer ideas and recipes to enhance a diet. 

My apothecary space. 

As a certified home apothecary and certified space cleanser, I will help the energy in your home and body. I believe the earth has many powerful medicines for our healing and enjoy helping others find the right plant ally for their issue. When energy gets stagnant or feels negative, I offer space cleansing to others to clear and reset. It's a noninvasive way of equalizing the air. 

Midwifery is my next step in birth work. I have plans to attend Mercy In Actions distance learning program. I am excited to serve Central Oklahoma as a home birth midwife and continue to offer holistic modalities to compliment my birth work.  

I would love to hear from you. What is something you've always wanted to ask a doula but were afraid to? Have I offered you a different perspective on doulas? Did you use a doula for your birth? Tell me about it. 

Divine Feminine: a retreat

Recently, I was honored to be invited to a special retreat held for local birth workers. The Divine Femine retreat was soul-opening and (little did I know) very much needed. My good friend, Brittany Fitzgerald, felt called to lead this retreat in her own journey as a birth worker. She pulled it off beautifully and I believe found her lifes calling in the process. This 2 day event touched parts of my soul I thought were ok, parts I thought were healed and parts I didn't realize I needed touched. I am forever greateful to Brittany for her dedication to our community and am so excited to see where this journey of hers leads.

Day 1:

We participated in a lot of soul searching. We meditated often. Brittany chose a special, handmade mala for each of us to use. It was such a touching offering and I will treasure the one she chose for me.  

a handmade mala. gifted from Brittany. 

I haven't meditated in a long time and what it reminded me is that I crave meditation. At the end of the day, after my feelings bubbled to the surface multiple times within the group, I felt calm and centered. My evening with my family went smoothly. I could feel the energy at work. I am thankful for the reminder to meditate and how it is so beneficial to my well-being. 

We did a wonderful exercise in listening and sharing. When I shared, I stumbled over my words and couldn't elaborate what my heart was feeling in words. While holding the light for my sisters, I felt at peace. While being the active listener, I heard the affirmations I needed to hear for this time of my life. Hearing that what you do matters is so validating. Hearing that you should follow your dreams, no matter where other peoples journeys take them, is epic. 

Day 2: 

I could feel the energy buzzing when I stepped into the room on day two. I was eager to participate and keep chipping away at things that my soul was hiding. Brittany read us a Feminie meditation that was beautifully written by her own two hands. It was absolutely perfect.  We kept the moodlight and uplofting with a dance session right before we moved to another location to begin our intuitive painting process.

Whenwe arrived at the place that was to be our studio for the afternoon, we were fed nourishing foods and got to laugh with each other while we ate. After lunch, we discussed the ins and outs of intuitive painting. Intuitive painting is when you sit in contemplation before your canvas, releasing all expectations, then just let the paint flow. Below is my painting. It's very feminine, which is a oart of myself I tend to diminish. It sits on my dresser so I can see it each morning and night.

If you ever are presented with a chance to attend a retreat such as this, I highly encourage you to go. Sitting with like-minded women is nourishing to your soul. It's something I intend to do more often. 

Holistic Care for Birth Workers

For centuries, women have passed their childbearing wisdom down from grandmother to mother to daughter. Today, we are lucky to have a plethora of (mis) information via the internet and from each and every woman who has given birth within a 50 mile radius around us. Women are usually eager to share their birth experiences. Sadly, most of them are enveloped in fear, degradation and regret. My drive for becoming a birth worker was to prove to women that you could have an empowering, fulfilling, even painless, birth. I have easily incorporated holistic ways into my client's information because that is the lifestyle I lead. It just seems natural to include it. 

Dandelions from my middle son, age 2. Loving nature comes naturally to him. 

As a doula, I have learned many things about Holistic Care as it pertains to pregnancy, birth and postpartum. It is not always teas and tinctures and sage and prayers. Sometimes, it's simply doing nothing. Taking in the "whole" situation and filling in the gaps to complete that circle of support.

I have also learned (through trial and error) how Holistic Care should look for the doula herself. When we are on our last legs, we are of no use to a mother who has been in labor for 48 hours straight. She needs you most in those final moments. Be present for her. Here are a few points that have shaped me along this journey:

1. Prepare for the unexpected- All of the affirmations in the world will not help you if you have not prepared for the unexpected. I have faced several such events over the last year and they have knocked the wind out of me, literally and figuratively. 

2. Listen to your intuition- Always. We are so connected to our intuition but often dismiss it because we feel silly, or don't want to hurt someone. Your intuition is your checkpoint. Always, always trust it. 

3. Sometimes, do nothing- This one is difficult. We are programed to help, to assist, to encourage. But sometimes, nothing is exactly what is needed. 

4. Never underestimate your energy and how it shapes a birth experience- One of my favorite sayings is "Please take responsibility for the energy you bring into this space." I find this really is poignant when attending a birth. My goal is to always bring pure, positive energy into a birth. And when the unexpected happens, I maintain that. 

5. Self care is important- As a birth worker, we are often running on protein bars and day old hospital coffee. This does no one any good. Be prepared with healthy snacks, a refillable water bottle, comfort measure for a quick nap, a toothbrush for those long births. Take the time to take care of you, so that you may take care of others.  

Always learning, I might look back on this list in 5 months and decide it is not longer valid. For now, it is. As I learn and grow, I hope to change as well. To fully immerse myself into this birth community and to watch it rise with love and hope. There are big changes on the horizon and I am elated to move into the next chapter of this calling. 

Slow Parenting: The 4th Trimester

You've spent the last nine (10) months nourishing, nurturing, connecting with the little being that grew inside of your womb. Society would suggest that now that baby is here, anyone can step into these sacred parental roles, freeing you up to “get back into the game”. You find yourself wanting to crawl into bed with your little one and watch them coo and gurgle away the days. Despite the demands that modern society puts on us, that is exactly what you should do.

But I’ve got a different perspective for new parents to consider. The “Fourth Trimester” is a term used by is a term used by Dr. Harvey Karp to describe the first few months of an infants’ life. He says that infants are born “too soon” based on their underdevelopment when compared to other mammal babies. If human babies were born when they were developmentally ready, we would have yearlong pregnancies and 3-month old sized newborns. American babies tend to cry more, have more digestive issues and generally are unhappier than other babies around the globe.

America is the only industrialized country in the world that does not have mandatory paid maternity leave for new parents. This means mothers going back to work 1, 2, 4 weeks after they’ve just given birth. This is equally traumatizing to the mother and the baby. Consequently, we also have the highest rate of infant and maternal death, “colic”, and GERD. Karp theorizes that colic and GERD do not exist in other countries because of the “lying in” period that other cultures encourage mothers to fulfill after birth. For 40 days, moms are waited on, cooked for, taken care of, while bonding with their new babies. This, coupled with 12-50 weeks of paid maternity leave, makes a huge impact in those first few moments of a newborns’ life.

One could theorize that because other parents are getting that crucial alone time with their infants to bond, carry and meet their basic needs themselves, American babies are responding with a loud wail of disapproval. Exploring the theory that our newborns are underdeveloped and our new mothers are physically and emotionally overwhelmed, the following are some gentle ways to promote self-care and infant bonding, even if you cannot fully have a “fourth trimester” period.

*Baby wearing

*Swaddling

*Breastfeeding

Have a “baby moon”. Take your infant to bed and spend several days or weeks simply bonding, nourishing and nurturing your child. Get to know their cues and allow your body to rest and heal in the process.

My sweet Harvest-Moon and me during our baby-moon.

*Nourishing soups

*Foods high in iron

*Lots of water

Nourishing herbal infusions are a great way to replenish your body with vital minerals and nutrients.

Use equal parts (1 oz) of the following:

Red Raspberry Leaf

Nettle

Chamomile

Catnip

Blessed Thistle

Comfrey.

Mix all herbs into a bowl with airtight lid, or Mason jar. Using about a Tablespoon of the mix, put herbs in a reusable tea bag or infuser. Pour just boiled water over the herbs and allow herbs to steep for a minimum of 10 minutes. Overnight is even better! Sweeten with local, raw honey and enjoy. Drink daily.

*Meditate

*Belly Binding

*Mayan Abdominal Massage

Herbal baths are a great way to relax and bond with baby, while healing your delicate areas. Demetria Clark shares these recipes with us in Issue 44 of Midwifery Today.

2 parts plantain flower (Plantago major)

1 part calendula flower (Calendula officinalis)

1 part comfrey leaf (Symphytum officinale)

1 part burdock (Arctium lappa)

1/2 part violet flower and leaf (Viola odorata)

1 part yarrow flower (Achillea millefolium)

1/2 part lady's mantle flower and leaf (Alchemilla vulgaris)

1/2 part lemon balm leaf (Melissa officinalis)

Mix well. You can add sea salt to the mixture if you wish. Add approximately one cup of herb and salt blend to six quarts boiling water, strain and add to shallow bath. You can also use as a compress.

1 cup sea salt

1/2 cup plantain leaf (Plantago major)

1/2 cup calendula flower (Calendula officinalis)

Use six cups of water.

Alternative ways to use herbal baths:

Brew with the above ratios and add to a Peri Bottle for use after going to the bathroom.

Pour some pre-brewed herbal mix on to pads and freeze for a pain relieving ice pack.

Use a diluted mix around baby’s cord for healing.

*Ask for help

*Take photos of these first sacred days

*Journal your birth experience

Taking this time to your family is self-care that we should expect and encourage of every new mom, always. 

*originally posted on Sacred Whisper OKC. 

Ancient Roots Art Show:2013

I was honored to create and fulfill a dream of helping Oklahoma's new Mothers' Milk Bank. My friend and fellow doula, Brittany Fitzgerald, and I came up with a wild idea, to create art centered around motherhood. After some initial brainstorming, we realized that World Breastfeeding Week was only 2 months away.

Could we possibly gather enough artists, find a suitable venue, get enough sponsors and pull off an art show that people would actually come to? Well, we did it. I am so proud of our accomplishments and grateful to each and every person who supported or contributed to this event. We raised a lot of money for the Milk Bank. All unsold art is available or purchase at Green Bambino through the end of August. All proceeds go to Oklahoma Mothers' Milk Bank.

Here are some images from the night of the event. *Photos by Debi Bocar

Keri Boone, Brittany Fitzgerald, Keri Hale, Deanna Norris

art by Deanna Norris, photography by Ian Norris

local artist entries. Available at Green Bambino

local artist entries. Available at Green Bambino